Wednesday, March 6, 2013

80s - An Officer and a Gentleman

I have watched An officer and a Gentleman (AO&G) on Friday, but differed writing the review until Sunday because I wasn't sure how I felt about the movie. First of all, the traditional love story is more of a secondary theme, so I'm not sure why it's on the list of Romantic Films of the 80s. What I found the most amusing is Richard Gere's appearance. I love Richard Gere, I think he is attractive and serene. My introduction to Richard Gere was Pretty Woman, therefore, in my mind, he has always been a gray haired hottie. It was quite interesting to see him with brown hair and even with a mullet at one point. I'm also sensing that AO&G preceded his Buddhist days, as his eyes don't seem to have their usual calmness and rest about them. This tirade about Richard Gere might seem besides the point, however AO&G is very much a Richard Gere movie.

The main premises is about Gere's character, Zack Mayo, finding his way in life after fumbling along in the shadows of a degenerate alcoholic father and dead mother. He turns to the Navy for northern-lights guidance to his path in life. He enrolls in a twelve week program for pilot candidates, and along the way he is rehabilitated into becoming a functional team member, lover, and good loyal friend. I suppose there's some parallels (I further suppose this is intentional) between the rough economic times of the 80s recession and the lives of various characters in the movie. However, I'm reviewing AO&G for its romantic value and therefore will adhere to the love analysis. Nevertheless, I will steer off course here and there, as per my discretion.

Again, the love story is a secondary theme. Gere's character does not even encounter his love interest (Debra Wenger's Paula Pokrifki) until thirty minutes in. It's important to note that there are other forms of love in AO&G. We have fatherly love portrayed by the homophobic racists sexist sadist drill Sergent, Emil Foley. We are implored to believe that Sarg is packaging his tough-love beneath layers of abuse because deep down (somewhere inside him) he cares. We see him jump into a pool, fully clothed, to rescue a cadet. We also see him sucker punch (more like kick) Mayo in the balls, as well as assail a female student. At the end, as the surviving candidates graduate to officers, they all salute Foley and thank him lovingly. Foley is a surrogate to Mayo's absentee father, as he teaches him how to be a better man.

Another form of love in AO&G, is brotherly love. This is the early 80s, a pre-bormance era, yet we witness Mayo bond with his male comrades. He runs to their rescue, providing shined belt buckles free of charge and oxygen supply. He even sacrifices achieving a new course record to help a female cadet get over a wall (don't get me started on how she repeatedly breaks down in tears during the training and after twelves weeks of tackling that damn wall, she still can't climb it! Honestly, this is 80s sexism at its best, although she relishes being plummeted into a water tank). The relationship between Mayo & Sid is one of the strongest connections we see in AO&G. They bond over Foley's abuse and scoring local tatas, while providing each other with support. Mayo dines with Sid's parents, a vast contrast to his own family. Finally, Mayo advises his friend to follow his heart and stop living to please others, to stop being a "Gentleman". Sadly, Sid ends up swinging from a belt noose in a motel-room bathroom, after being rejected by his lover.

Interestingly enough, we don't get to see Mayo's relationship with Paula mature. They round most of the bases on their first date, I'm inclined to infer that he hit a home run. She declares her love for him on their second appearance (I honestly couldn't gauge how long they were supposed to be together at that point). He opens up to her about his feeling for his father and his mother's suicide. Eventually, he meets her parents and dumps her upon being pressed with "Where do you see this going?" kind of question. I know that it seems I have edited down their relationship to bulletin points, but this is how it was portrayed and thus my confusion to why AO&G is classified as a romance, when in fact it is nothing of the sort. I can understand women's preference of the movie, a young Gere is truly an ethereal vision. In my opinion, the best thing about AO&G is watching Gere walk away with his perfect tight butt. Of course, there's the whole men in uniform thing. But I am sorry ladies, this movie is not romantic, in the least. Even the most famous scene in the film is outrageous. I can't help but think that the women who like this movie are deranged. The final scene has Gere entering the factory where Paula works, in his officer's uniform. He sweeps her off his feet (literally) and carries her away to the theme song, as her co-works applaud. Yes! They are clapping during this whole display. Okay, I know that I am jaded about the whole lovey-dovey thing, but please can someone explain to me how on earth is this romantic, besides the blatant knight-in-shining-armor metaphor, riding on his white horse to rescue his beloved from a life destitute to misery and despair. Throughout the movie, we see Paula struggling with her desire to escape her mother's fate (yet she chooses to work in the same factory and go out with cadets, just like her mother). The only way out is to lure and bag an officer husband. I'm sorry, hasn't Paula heard of the women's movement! Again, maybe there are some social-economical subtext to the storyline reflected in the contrast between the destines of the female cadet and the local girls, a subliminal message that an improved life exists at the end of the yellow brick road of education/army/country service.I honestly don't know, and I am not going to pretend to be sophisticated enough to scrutinize this analogy further.

I suppose part of movie's romantic allure lies in the theme song "Up Where We Belong". Love did lift Mayo to a better existence, albeit not the love of a woman, rather the love of life and what seems to be the love of one's self.

Hero Profile: Perpetual Bad Boy
Mayo is the proverbial Bad-Boy, all the way down to the motor cycle. But it's Gere's charm that really draws us in, the moments when he allows Mayo to be caring and tender. Paula doesn't want to change Mayo. She simply wants to be part of his life.

Images of the relationship:
(1) Sexual Attraction:
The sexual attraction between Mayo and Paula is evident from their very first encounter. It seems to be the corner stone of their relationship.

(2) Trust:
Mayo has problems trusting others. Being abandoned by his mother's suicide and a father who was never invested in being a caregiver, Mayo doesn't allow himself to get close to anyone. His emotions are fiercely guarded behind a tough facade. However we see Mayo bonding (and trusting) more with his drill sergent and Sid than with Paula.


(3) Knight in Shining Armor:
Mayo's love and acceptance is Paula's lifeline, despite insisting that all she wants is to have a good time. She's hurt when Mayo treats her badly, she invites him to dinner with her parents, and asks Mayo to commit. He was her savior from a mundane life.

Lessons Unlearned:
  1. The women movement has progressed significantly since the release of AO&G. Now we have Angelina Jolie and Jennifer Garner kicking the ass of walls instead of breaking down in tears. In reality, IBM and Yahoo have women CEOs, Kathryn Bigelow won an Oscar for directing, and there are female astronauts in space. Needless to say, no woman needs nor requires a man to rescue her (beside Pepper Potts ! Can she please kick some ass in Iron Man 3?!). Yet we still strive for relationships that complete us. Through these relationships, we hope to be rescued from time to time, as well as becoming our partners' heroes.
  2. Apparently men will still want to buy the cow despite getting the milk for free - the old "I'm Knocked UP" trick is alive and well. But be ware, the cow will not always want to be bought.

Monday, February 18, 2013

80s - Endless Love

What to say about Endless Love? Well, the first thing that comes to mind while watching this movie is اللي اختاشوا ماتو or "All those with shame have died". Honestly, what kind of parent, hippies or else, would allow their kids to have impromptu music concerts in the house, consume alcohol and smoke weed, then go to sleep leaving their teenaged daughter alone at night with her boyfriend. When the mother walks in of them butt-naked and doing it on the floor in the living, all she does is hover on the landing, gazing upon them with a maternal smile that conveys "Oh, how beautiful; my daughter is all grown up!" Maybe it's just me, but this movie is all kinds of wrong, yet it is also all kinds of right.

First let me explain why I have started with "Endless Love". My initial plan was to watch the movies in a chronological order of their release. However, I had difficulty finding a rental of "The Blue Lagoon" and "Fatso". Truth be told, I have been procrastinating this whole review process because I really didn't want to watch The Blue Lagoon. Beware of what you wish for! I ended up watching Endless Love. Did I mention that Brooke Shields is my least favorite actor at the moment. Furthermore, it has started to dawn on me how daunting this whole process is going to be. Sure I like watching movies, but my favorite films are (in no particular order):
  • God Father 2
  • Nine to Five
  • LA Confidential
  • China Town
As evident from the above list, romance is not my favorite genre. But alas, it's too early to give up. Hell! I've just started.

I did my best to watch Endless Love with an open mind. During the first third of the movie, when the love story is being presented, all I could think was "This movie sucks ass!" The opening credits is of Jade and David walking through a heart exhibit in a science museum, kissing and embracing. This is shot in a crimson haze. Endless Love is full of the cliches, crackling fires and rustling tree leafs. As the movie progresses, I start to think that it's not that bad, that there might be some substance and honesty to the story, but then it falls back into sucking ass and makes a u-turn towards the end. Before I get into the nitty gritty details, let me mention the best thing about Endless Love. My most enjoyable part of the movie was seeing a very very young Tom Cruise in cut-out jeans! As I looked up from my laptop, I saw that "Knight and Day" was playing on TV. Honestly, the difference between Tom Cruise then and now is like night and day - sorry, I just couldn't help myself. Another good thing about the movie is the theme song "Endless Love", written by Lionel Richie. It is quite a romantic song, which in my opinion had a wider impact on our distorted notions of love than the movie. In case you were wondering, yes, it is on the short list for my wedding song :)

Back to the movie, our two protagonists Jade (who is 15 years old) and David (who is said to be a senior in high school, so it is safe to assume that he is 17 or 18) are dating and in love. Actually the dreaded "L" word is uttered in the first few minutes. My major difficulty with the movie is the notion of love being portrayed. The relationship here is shown as an all consuming endeavor - more so from David's perspective than Jade's. I tend to see some honesty to the idea that Jade & David believe that their feelings for each other is everlasting and endless. I mean, really, how can a teenager gauge the longevity of forever when he's been alive for less than two decades. Moreover, I am inclined to think that the trauma of not seeing one's loved one for 30 days would seem to a teenager like an eternity of torture. Teenagers experience everything in extreme intensities, either over the moon euphoria or oh-my-God how will I survive. Yet, I just couldn't buy the portrayal of the relationship, how un-messy and tender their love making appeared. The first time they do it is in her parent's living room floor! Wouldn't it have made more sense to retire to the privacy of Jade's bedroom, where there's a door and a slim possibility of someone stumbling over their naked bodies on their way to the kitchen for a glass of water? But again, this is Hollywood, realism and rationality are not part of the equation. If they were to copulate behind Jade's bedroom door, there would have been no crackling fire (apparently, if you haven't have sex on the floor in-front of a crackling fire, you are technically still a virgin) and we wouldn't have witnessed the mother's nonchalant reaction towards her 15 year old daughter's late night activities.

As mentioned before, the movie wasn't all bad. Jade and David's love story plays out against their respective parents' relationships. On one side we have Jade's parents, the easy going hippies who get high and make out while partying with their kids and their friends. Once in the solitude of their bedroom, you get the feeling that this is all a facade, as Mary (the wife) would rather spend the night with a book on Russian literature, given to her by none other than David. It is evident from the beginning that Mary has feelings for David, maybe it is her cougar instincts. There's also a strange vibe about Hugh (the husband). It's understandable for him to be upset that his young daughter is parading her sex life right in-front of his face, but he has an odd sense of possessiveness towards her. On the other side of the relationship spectrum we have David's parents, the level headed socialist lawyers who'd rather listen to their clients than their own son. I believe that David buries himself into Jade's arms, literally and figuratively, because he wants to belong, he wants to be loved, not just by Jade but by her entire family, so he imposes himself upon them. Again, I think this is an honest portrayal, who amongst us didn't wish they could have different parents when we were teenagers. What I like the most about the dynamics of the young-love versus not-so-young-dare-I-say-old-love is the contrast in longevity. Jade & David believe their love is forever, while both their parents' marriages were holding on by a thread and eventually fall part.

I won't go into the details of the storyline, God forbid I spoil the movie for those of you who want to watch it! All I'll say is that the movie skims over most of the topics. We are never given any insights into Jade's relationship with her parents, David's stay at a mental health institute and his subsequent release. Even the demise of the marriages, we get very few details to why or how it happens. All we're told is that Jade's parents are divorced and David's parents are separated because his father was inspired by David's really screwed up feelings for Jade. At the end, we discover that no love story is endless or forever, except in the minds of teenaged love-deprived mentally-unbalanced boys. We'll always strive to find our true love, whether we are a teenager or middle aged. And, when the woman/girl is hotter than the guy, she'll move on with her life more easily, maybe because she cherished being loved more than loving.

Hero Profile: Hopelessly Romantic Psycho
David is a wimp! There's no other way to describe him. He's not a jock, we never see him playing sports and he doesn't have an athletic physique. He's all lovely dovey and he declares over and over and over again that he loves Jade, yet we never see them do anything besides doing it. I suppose they wanted to showcase him as an intellectual, but sorry, I'm just not buying it. What kind of intellectual would throw away a college education and break parole for a girl? The crazy kind! And this brings us to the psycho part, David refuses to let go, he is fixated on Jade in a very unhealthy manner. He burns down her house, for crying out loud.

Images of the relationship:
We never see much depth to the relationship in Endless Love, so it's difficult to complete this aspect of the analysis, however we see:
(1) The Possessive Lover:
David just won't let go. Not seeing Jade for 30 days seems unbearable for him. When he sees Jade talking to another boy at a party, he sets her house on fire. After being sentenced to 5 years probation in a mental institute, he keeps writing her letters, even when he gets no replies, he continues to send them. At one point you want to screamed at him to take the hint and get a life already! Once he's released from mental care, despite seeing hallucinations of Jade, and while he is still on probation, he skips town and heads to New York to look for her. Even when he indirectly causes her father's death, he still wants to love Jade. Needless to say, David is possessed with his notion of love, which doesn't seem to be sincerely reciprocated. We see Jade going to parties and mingling with other boys. After the fire, she doesn't contact David's family to see how he's doing. Later on we learn that she's attending school in Vermont. She's moved on, rightfully so. Although she lapses back into David's arms, this doesn't last long. At the end, she states that she'll never find anyone to love her like David does. No shit, dude's crazy !!

(2) Seeking Love:
David's father confesses that he has left his wife to seek his true love because he was inspired by the sole encounter he had with David and Jade. My analysis is, men will always have the emotional maturity and range of a teenaged boy.

(3) Young Lovers:
Both Jade's parents end up seeking relationships with younger partners. Maybe they are trying to reclaim their youth by taking on young lovers, or they could be seeking validation by engaging less experienced lovers. 

Lessons Unlearned:
  1. Nothing is forever. No relationship is forever, Sure, you can fall in love, but in order to stay in love and loved, you'll have to work hard at it.
  2. Don't define yourself by who you love or who you're with. Be your own identity.
  3.  No one is ever going to love you like David loves Jade because:
  • You look nothing like Brooke Shields, not even close
  • Dude's Crazy
  • No sane person would want to be in an all consuming relationship. We all need room to breath, room to become ourselves.

Favorite Quotes:
"At the end, that's what we mourn, the paths we didn't take and the people we didn't touch."

Sunday, February 10, 2013

Romantic Movies from 2000s


Title Release Year
What Women Want 2000
Amelie 2001
Shrek 2001
Moulin Rouge ! 2001
Bridget Jones's Diary 2001
Someone Like You 2001
My Big Fat Greek Wedding 2002
Sweet Home Alabama 2002
Love Actually 2003
How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days 2003
Garden State 2004
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind 2004
Before Sunset 2004
Closer 2004
The Notebook 2004
Bridget Jones: The Edge of Reason 2004
Wedding Crashers 2005
The 40 Year Old Virgin 2005
Brokeback Mountain 2005
Pride and Prejudice 2005
Just Like Heaven 2005
Stranger Than Fiction 2006
The Holiday 2006
Once 2006
Juno 2007
Enchanted 2007
Knocked Up 2007
Atonement 2007
P.S. I Love You 2007
Definitely, Maybe 2008
Zack and Miri Make a Prono 2008
Walle-E 2008
Slumdog Millionaire 2008
Rachel Getting Married 2008
(500) Days of Summer 2009
Up 2009
An Education 2009

Romantic Movies from the 90s


Title Release Year
Ghost 1990
Joe Versus The Volcano 1990
Pretty Woman 1990
Beauty and The Beast 1991
Forever Young 1992
The Bodyguard 1992
The Remains of The Day 1993
Sleepless in Seattle 1993
City of Angels 1993
Four Weddings and a Funeral 1994
It Could Happen to You 1994
Only You 1994
Speechless 1994
A Walk in The Clouds 1995
Before Sunrise 1995
Sense and Sensibility 1995
The American President 1995
The Bridges of Madison Country 1995
While You were Sleeping 1995
Bed of Roses 1996
Jerry Maguire 1996
One Fine Day 1996
The Truth About Cats and Dogs 1996
Romeo + Juliet 1996
Up Close and Personal 1996
As Good as it Gets 1997
Titanic 1997
Meet Joe Black 1998
Shakespeare in Love 1998
You've Got Mail 1998
10 Things I hate About You 1999
Mansfield Park 1999
Notting Hill 1999
Random Hearts 1999
The Thomas Crown Affair 1999

Romantic Movies from the 80s


Title Release Year
The Blue Lagoon 1980
Fatso 1980
Arthur 1981
Endless Love 1981
An Officer and a Gentleman 1982
Tootsie 1982
Flashdance 1983
Terms of Endearment 1983
Splash 1984
A Room with a View 1985
Children of a lesser God 1986
Peggy Sue Got Married 1986
Pretty in Pink 1986
Top Gun 1986
Dirty Dancing 1987
Mannequin 1987
The Princess Bride 1987
Roxanne 1987
Big 1988
Cocktail 1988
Working Girl 1988
Say Anything 1989
When Harry Met Sally 1989
The Little Mermaid 1989

How Hollywood Distorts Our Notions of Love

Five or seven years ago, I was going through a difficult time in my life. I call it my mid-life crisis. Anyway, in order to deal with everything I was experiencing, I started to keep a journal. I wouldn't actually call it a journal per se, it was more of an outlet for my emotions and most importantly my thoughts and opinions. One of my very first entries was titled "How Hollywood Has Distorted Our Notions of Love". In it I explain how our perception of "Love" has been influenced by movies and songs. It explains how the media (namely Hollywood) projects human relationships through pink-colored glasses, thus giving us false hope that happy endings and Cinderella stories do exist. When in truth, men are from mars, and women are idiots to expect a Hollywood love affair.

I really don't remember the details of my journal entry, but I can't seem to get this idea out of my head. So, once again I have decided to turn this into a creative-boredom project. I will take a pseudo-scientific approach to the topic a la "Built to Last" and "Good to Great". I am going to analyze popular romantic movies from the 80s, 90s and 2000s. First I'll put together a list of movies for each decade. Then I'll watch each and every movie on the list, in chronological order. I will post a review of each movie in this blog and I'll analyze the movie in terms of:
  • The Hero Profile
  • Images of the relationship
  • Lessons Unlearned
At the end of this odyssey, I hope to compile the results and entwine them with my personal opinions. Through this blog, I invite you to join me on this journey. I'll post the movie lists for each decade, so let me know if you have any additional suggestions. Furthermore, share your own reviews and opinions about each movie.

I haven't figured out the logistics yet. I'm not sure how long it'll take me to complete the project, but the best thing about creative-boredom is flying by the seat of you pants. Along the way, I see a hashtag to get twitter involved, even a Facebook page, and who knows maybe a book and a movie ;). Ultimately, I'm doing this whole thing just for fun. So, I hope it continues to be an enjoyable experience.